This hasn’t been a healthy, loving marriage for a long time. If ever there was.
Now, it’s over, and Marie Brown is living life without Cody for the first time in decades.
What’s on his mind?
Choice… About peace, anger and retribution.
Marie Brown and Cody split last December.
Their marriage lasted for 32 years. They were legally divorced so that Cody could legally marry Robin – but it was a paper formality.
But the spirit of their marriage died years ago. It was not a mere formality.
Now, for the first time since she was barely an adult, Mary is living life as a single woman.
She also continues to share quotes and inspirational posts about relationships – and healing.
Her most recent Instagram Story posts come from an account called Power of Positivity.
“Try to be a person who finds peace,” begins the quote, “when something triggers you.”
The post continues: “Instead of getting angry and seeking revenge.”
Before we get into what this means, especially for Mary, let’s break it down.
Short of actual slang, “trigger” is one of the most maliciously misused words out there.
Generally speaking, this refers to someone with PTSD, or disordered eating, or a condition like GAD or OCD.
When someone hears fireworks and his whole body goes into panic, that was the result of the trigger. When someone smells a cologne worn by a monster who ruined their life and finds themselves reliving their worst memories, it’s a trigger.
In this case, “trigger” may refer to trauma. Or the quote may misuse the phrase, as many do, to simply mean “to anger”.
Of course, when someone or something makes you angry, there are many ways to go about it.
Peace is not always an option. But, in many cases, seeking peace is the only viable option. It can also be healthy.
All negativity will not go away easily if you face it calmly. But it can help you recover and move on.
And to get revenge… It’s a romantic concept, but it’s usually a fool’s errand.
There are better, more productive ways to find satisfaction in life.
That said, many people can understand if Mary might feel deeply bitter about Cody.
In January, the two made a joint statement revealing that they had “made the decision to permanently end our marital relationship.”
Since then, Mary has been busy and doing “whatever she wants”. He is probably happier now.